Asher—our middle child—is quite the kid. He wears his heart on his sleeve. He’s a no-nonsense kind of guy. He often sees (and says) things with far more clarity and wisdom than his years.
As a mere five year old, Asher declared that he never wanted to get married, instead preferring to be like “Uncle Dan,” our forty-something, bachelor neighbor and co-worker. And that opinion has stuck for the last two years, but as Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds.” Asher’s mind is not a little one.
The topic came up again at dinner this week. He said, “The only reason I do want to get married is so that I can have a cute, chubby little girl like Claire.” Even though He and his sister battle pretty vigorously at times (she sees him as the easiest family member to overtake, apparently), his tenderness and protection towards her is a beautiful thing. At just seven years of age, he has so much love in his heart for her that he foresees the joy of a future fatherhood for a little sweetheart like Claire.
But don’t try to pin him down quite yet. He also said, “But I would like to have a big house all by myself, and I can’t have that if I get a family.”
Stay tuned for further developments.
(P.S. Minutes after I wrote this, I had a lunch with Asher where he said, “Daniel is the nicest boy at school because he shares with everyone.” I commented to Asher how wonderful it is that he compliments his friends so frequently. He then told me his philosophy: “Do you know what I tell myself in my head all the time? Only say nice things about other people. Don’t say anything that might be mean.” Oh, that I might be as wise as my seven-year-old!)