The second off-campus experience we were able to have on our day off last Saturday was dinner with my long-time Kenyan friend, Pastor Earnest and his wife. Earnest and Winnie served us our last authentic Kenyan meal before we left Kenya in July of 2009, and they served us our first one last week.
As we caught up on our lives and shared how God had blessed and taught us in our year away from each other, Earnest marveled at how big our boys had gotten. He also was somewhat envious, as boys are a sign of blessing in traditional Kenyan culture.
He told me that my boys would be able to “carry my stick” someday and explained the cultural allusion. When a man becomes an elder he has respect and authority in Africa. The stick that he uses to help him walk securely is a symbol of his age and power. If he has a son, the son may be given his father’s stick to symbolize his ability to carry out business in his father’s name. When a son has the father’s stick, it signifies that he has equal power and prestige as the father.
I was a bit humbled by his “vision” for my sons. Here I was hoping my boys would keep their dirty feet off his furniture and would not spill their drinks all over his floor and a variety of other worries that parents of small children deal with, while he was appreciating the blessing of children, and particularly boy children from his cultural point of view.
Another lesson I took away was the eerie similarity to John 14 and other sundry passages in the Bible. Jesus says that he comes “carrying the stick” of his Father—doing the work, acting on the authority, speaking on behalf of his Heavenly Father. Of course, the analogy doesn’t hold perfectly, as a Kenyan son and his Kenyan father are never in essence “one” with each other as Jesus the Son and God the Father are, but it is a cultural picture that gives us a glimpse of who Jesus was here on Earth.
Lots of wood last Saturday. I carried stumps in the morning; I learned about the joy of having sons to carry your stick in the evening. It was a well-rooted day off.

